Tolerations are a drain on life energy and distract you from your life purpose and satisfaction, not to mention how they erode your self-esteem
Most of us have tolerated things that with hindsight we realise we ought not to have. We may have been too “busy” to write up the notes, tidy up after ourselves, send a thank you card, or maybe been too scared to bring up the lack of help, support, punctuality, tidiness or even respect of another. We’ve had periods where corners were cut, amends were not made and we have generally not looked after, self-partnered and loved ourselves.
Here’s a list of 10 behaviours and situations to stop tolerating so that you can move towards greater inner peace and fulfilment.
- Unkind words and/or behaviour
If you’ve been putting up with others calling you names and/or speaking down to you, consider ways to improve your self-esteem. Make a list of your strengths and use it as a basis for a self-nurturing affirmation. Review the list as needed for a reminder of your self-worth; then act and speak from that place.
- Poor work/life balance
Working after midnight again? It’s essential for health and happiness not to let work take priority over home and family. The world won’t end when you leave work at work (or in the case of the growing population of self-employed – close the door on it! Do this for two solid weeks and see what a difference it makes.
- Unhappiness in your job
These tolerations might include overly demanding clients, disrespectful bosses or coworkers that let others pick up the slack. What is one action that you can take right now to shift the situation?
Do you live with someone who can’t seem to put stuff away? Or maybe you’ve created the clutter yourself? Take five minutes each day to put things in order. Along with a sense of peace, you’ll be amazed at the time saved when you don’t have to hunt around. If someone else is making the mess, have an honest heart-to-heart conversation, and come to an agreement about how to fix the problem.
- House and car repairs
From garage doors that won’t close properly to that rattle in the car motor, the tolerations surrounding possessions can quickly turn into aggravation. Make it a habit to repair things quickly. You won’t have to tolerate these little nuisances, and you might be saving yourself from a much bigger problem (and bill) stemming from letting the little repairs go untended.
- Lack of respect for time and energy
Have a friend who shows up late more often than not? A tardy coworker who holds up meetings? Communicate honestly with your friend about the impact of their lateness. Ask that meetings start on time—latecomers or not. Take inventory of your own awareness of others’ time and energy, and set boundaries for yourself, if needed.
- Poor wellness habits
Whether it’s lack of exercise or an unhealthy diet, don’t give in to the slippery slope of bad habits. Being proactive about your health now can prevent larger health issues in the future.
You might feel obligated to do things even if they conflict with your own desires. Don’t feel like attending the work party for a coworker that you never bonded with? That’s okay.
- Financial problems
Prioritise your financial health by using an online budget system to keep track of your monthly budget, due dates for bills, spending patterns and savings goals.
From worry over the economy to dismal job prospects, people fall into negative thinking for various reasons. A quick solution involves listing five things in your life for which you have gratitude right now.
Tolerations are all around. As a simple solution, make a list of your own Top 10 tolerations. Then, take some time each day to chip away at them. Pick up the right tool to fix the garage door, pay your credit card bill on time and practice honest, nonjudgmental communication. The payoff in restored life energy for taking these small actions will be priceless.
I hope you enjoyed this blog, for more tips on improving your self esteem, please pop your email in here, and if you need help to work through any of the above issues in particular, get in touch with me directly for some coaching. If you would like to give self-esteem a general boost, check out the self-esteem seminar!