Let me clarify exactly what I mean by feelings. You could say that emotions are objective, the physical response to something that occurs in your world. Emotions can be measured in physical responses – body language, blood flow, brain activity. Feelings on the other hand are subjective; feelings are the meanings we give to emotions, and how we interpret them. We are not taught much about either one.
We are sent to school to learn how to use our brains, to after school clubs for hobbies and to social events, dancing and so on, to learn to mix with others. However, as far as feelings go, the little we do learn tends to be governed by stereotypical statements such as “boys don’t cry” or “girls don’t get angry.” We simply don’t get lessons in dealing with anger, hurt, frustration, jealousy, and the loneliness of not quite connecting with others. Yet there is no question: feelings can be uncomfortable, not only our feelings, but those of others too. So we learn to push our feelings down, to bottle them up. The trouble is, this can cost us dearly. It takes a lot of energy to keep those feelings down, energy we could use to simply get on with and enjoy life. It’s not healthy to keep our feelings locked up, but each time a phrase like “Don’t be angry!” or “Get on with it” is used, the way we feel is invalidated and a little part of us begins to doubt ourselves. We begin to think that we must be wrong and those other voices must be right. We still feel what we feel; it just gets easier to store it away somewhere inside. The long-term effects of having our feelings denied is not trusting our feelings, and, eventually, not feeling at all.
Yet despite that, and in a very real sense, those feelings are still with you. Like will always attract like, so if, for example, as a child you went through the same type of upset over and over again, you may still be creating the same situation in your present. These things can be cumulative, and when there is enough of the same type of reactions, an unhealthy pattern is established and disease or illness can result; your wonderful body ends up processing the emotions you are not processing yourself.
So how do you release hurts of the past?
Please watch the video below-
Have a listen to this 10 minute video where I explain the holistic model of the mind.
The process I use to help clients release emotional baggage from the past and also to release type of trauma that post traumatic stress disorder is known as mnemodynamic psychotherapy which is the brainchild of my partner in the Rebecca Washington school that hypnosis and my mentor, Sue Washington. If you would like to book a session go to the bookings tab above and on the individual face to face menu, either book your first session of 2 hours or get them at a discounted rate choose block booking for Mnemodynamic Psychotherapy
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