Ever say to yourself wtf am I doing???
Your behaviour is just not right around a certain situation and you damn well know it.
It makes you feel really uncomfortable but you just can’t seem to face it. If it is really bad and you feel helpless to resolve the situation you might need help to forget: eating, drinking, or obsessing with work, sex or rock and roll. One way or another you brush it over a bit like the doggy in the pic.
The trouble is it won’t be long before you find yourself stepping in it again
So how do you even begin to handle this tendency to cover up, get off your face or pretend the shit isn’t even there?
The first step is to know yourself and to do that you actually have to STOP not just long enough to ask the question “wtf!” but long enough to hear the answer!!!!!
And to do THAT you need to get to know yourself better, the first step on any journey has to be knowledge, in this case…
To develop yourself, you first need to know yourself and your own truth and to do that you must first feel safe and relaxed, you need some tools, so let’s begin.
Learn to Relax
“Don’t worry, just relax and let me guide you…” words I use every day as a hypnotherapist, I use them now as that is exactly what I’m going to do – guide you – I won’t bore you with the ins and outs of too much dogma and style, or list the countless benefits, of what I bring, I’ll simply present what I have found during my experience both personally and professionally to be straight forward and effective ways of relaxing. We need to relax just enough to hear the messages sent to us from the self in the centre of our being as opposed to the ranting, frazzled self that deafens many of us to our soul’s truth and our soul’s truth is what will empower us through the struggles life inevitably brings”.
There are times when the relaxation occurs naturally, for instance when you sit on the beach watching the ocean; but let’s face it how often does that happen? You need to deliberately put time aside for it and practice! So in other words, you need to learn to relax.
It’s really quite simple, let me give you a few guidelines:
Find the time and space, somewhere comfortable where you will not be disturbed.
Find a method that suits you
Then practice, practice, practice!!!!
Honest that simple.
And the thing is you cannot even begin to know yourself properly and uncover the powerful resources you already possess within without taking the time to relax and find them for yourself. Even worse while you continue to transmit the vibration of denial, fear or just “not here” that is all the universe will hear and return to you in response – law of attraction – there is no way around it.
So if you haven’t already done so, this is a good time to enjoy our first journey together. If this is early in your relaxation practice, I’d recommend lying flat on your back. Lying flat on your back is one of the most popular and beneficial position to relax in. In Yoga it is called Shavassana:
“Shavassana is one of the most popular and beneficial position to relax in and is intended to rejuvenate body mind and spirit. It goes something like this:
Before you begin, ensure you’ll be warm and comfortable for the duration of the practice, and that there won’t be any distractions. Then lie supine or semi supine – either flat on your back or with your knees bent, whichever is most comfortable for you. You may wish to prop up under your knees with pillows or blankets especially for the longer practices. Certainly you’ll want to have a duvet, blanket or some sort of covering depending on the temperature of the room. Just remember that your body temperature will drop during practice and that the main thing is that YOU are comfortable throughout.
Once you have found the best position you relax your whole body onto the mat. I mainly refer to mat due to the yoga origins of this practice but of course at home you may lie on the floor or bed. Your neck needs to be comfortably long so that the middle of the back of your head is on the mat. Your arms and legs are spread at about 45 degrees, eyes and mouth gently closed, jaw released and your facial muscles hanging loose. All the muscles of your body need to be loose. Then just scan all parts of your body for muscular tension of any kind, and consciously release it as you find it. Then bring your awareness to the rising and falling of your abdomen with each breath.
At the end we’ll release the posture by slowly deepening the breath, flexing fingers and toes, stretching the whole body, exhaling, bringing your knees to the chest. Rolling over onto your side in a foetal position, or whatever is your preferred way of finishing your practice. After a few moments and a slow inhalation, perhaps giving the lower back a gentle massage by rolling from side to side with the knees at your chest, slowly come up to a seated position”.
Please make a comment below and let me know if this has helped.
For more on how the body reacts to stress and the corresponding relaxation response see – Two Perfect Systems
Love and Light